I just had a life changing conversation with my boyfriend, one that had me thinking “What’s next?????”
When there is a clear distinct difference between you and your boyfriend, one so vivid and no one is willing to compromise, why continue? I mean, these are differences in terms of lifestyle, cultural and religious beliefs. Sometimes we give love too much credit and responsibility, and do not care much for logic. We are always out talking about how one should keep a circle where all parties are in it for the same mission and vision, while the road leading to that goal is paved with different intentions.
I’m dating a very cultural man, and for some odd reason, I find that they are the guys that end up loving me or falling for me and my madness, but there will forever be a clear distinction in the chosen way of life. I’m not very cultural, I wouldn’t call myself uncultured because that isn’t true, but I was raised in a household where traditional and cultural activities seemed like acts seen only in movie screens.
After our very heated conversation, it became very clear that none of us was will compromise their way of life to suit the needs of the other, I mean, speaking from my own point of view, I’m going to now participate in ancestral activities when I grew up not doing such.
I also find that as females, we are expected to give more, compromise more, quit more, do less of what we like and become lesser and lesser of who we are, to accommodate our significant other. Saying things like, “but I love him” and all is done in the name of love. AGAIN!! Love cannot be the basis of all reasoning!!!!!!
Anyway, I found myself feeling sad because I can see the end and I still choose to stay because I love my nino… Such differences in character and lifestyle and culture scare me because this is how we determine morals and beliefs and how we choose to live our lives… Only time will tell…
I am a fixer after all… Ms Project hmmm :(